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Posted: Wednesday, August 15, 2012 4:00 am

With Calfornia’s Proposition 8 and Defense of Marriage Act cases on the heels before the U.S. Supreme Court, I am concerned that some people are unaware of the impact the decisions may have. So many people do not see the effect this decision may have on certain individuals within their society. Some may see it as an attack on the sanctity of marriage while others are concerned with economical issues. For those concerned about their money, marriage equality has brought $259 million into New York City’s economy within just one year. That is a tremendous amount of money.

Of the people who say marriage should be between a man and woman; who are they to tell two consenting adults who they may love and marry? Some say gays are shoving this issue down their throats. But what I see are people against marriage equality using money and the ballot box to shove their views into my face. No one is forcing anyone to marry someone of the same-sex nor are gays forcing churches to marry them. People that are against same-sex marriage because of religious reasons have so conveniently forgotten a time when African American’s were denied their rights because certain people twisted scriptures in the bible.

On July 30, 2011, I was married to my partner of 10 years in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. This was the happiest time of my life. When we applied for our marriage license I went through so many emotions. During our wedding ceremony I kept choking up; my dream was finally coming true. For the first time ever I was being treated like everyone else. The majority of people don’t know how it feels not to be treated equally. When I hear about some heterosexual couple dreaming about that “perfect fantasy” wedding; I think to myself, really? All I want is to be able to marry the man I love with all my heart, with whom I want to spend the rest of my life. I don’t care about all that superficial stuff that comes with a wedding.

Thank you Canada for that moment, I will never forget it. And Rick, I love you more than anything.

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5 comments:

  • Celebrant Susan posted at 3:07 pm on Thu, Aug 16, 2012.

    Celebrant Susan Posts: 1

    I am a graduate Life-Cycle Celebrant and ordained interfaith, cross-cultural minister. Last year I performed more gay marriage/commitment ceremonies than heterosexual marriages in Arizona. I understand what Alex Gill-Gerards went through to receive recognition for the desire to be married to the love of his life.

    I feel it is shameful for US citizens to have to go to other countries because their own country deems them "second class" or "unworthy" of equal rights such as the right to the pursuit of happiness and the right to marry.

    I believe that marriage should be mandated under Federal law as it is in Canada. The provinces do not make up individual laws - no matter where you get married in Canada, your marriage (gay or otherwise) will be recognized and have equal benefits.

    As a Celebrant, I write personal love stories into the commitment or marriage ceremonies of all my clients. The love stories shared with me by my gay clients are heartfelt. Often they have been together for years and desire only to celebrate their love and know what it is to be loved in return, and respected by their family and friends. Sadly, there is the occasional ceremony I perform where parents may not be in attendance because they never accepted the sexual orientation of their child. It is also true that some parents will not attend an cross-cultural marriage because they do not accept the man/woman their child has chosen to love. It is such a sadness. But with courage, these couples forge their own life of happiness, taking care to become "as legal as possible" in Arizona.

    I may not be able to pronounce them married "by the power vested in me by the State of Arizona", but I can certainly declare them partners for life by the "power of love within us all."

    I use the following quote in my marketing: "Who would give a law to lovers? Love is unto itself a higher law." This was written by Boethius, in the Consolation of Philosophy, A.D. 524.

    I look forward to writing and performing many more gay ceremonies and to one day be able to do so with legal status and weight.

     
  • Desertdiva posted at 12:19 pm on Thu, Aug 16, 2012.

    Desertdiva Posts: 2

    I was raised a Roman Catholic and from a very early age learned the Golden Rule. As I matured, I came to see that this guiding principle was not actually guiding the teachings of the church and quickly departed the rigidity and hyprocrisy therein.
    I did, however, continue to believe in and try to live according to the Rule because it seemed to be based on love and respect for other humans. And these traits, I thought, were the bases of Christian, Buddhist, Jewish, Muslim and several other philosophies. Perhaps I'm naive, but I fail to hear evidence of adherence to these most fundamental (pardon the pun) of principles in the hate/fear-filled rants that rale against humans who just want to be free to love each other in peace and with equality.
    Even if we as individuals have no power to
    solve global strife, why not give acceptance a try in our own little worlds?

     
  • equalityrules posted at 8:29 am on Thu, Aug 16, 2012.

    equalityrules Posts: 1

    All Americans should have the right to marry.[smile]

     
  • Gods love 4ever posted at 1:50 pm on Wed, Aug 15, 2012.

    Gods love 4ever Posts: 2

      I must say I found your story pretty interesting. I respect that you don't have the desire to change me and my beliefs but want marriage equality for yourself and for others that are in your situation. I do believe that allowing gays to marry will also be financially, beneficial for our economy. I am a strong believer in Jesus and what the bible tells us, I give you and others my apology when I say that there was once a day when I didn't agree with homosexuality. But recently within the past 2 years I read the bible while researching what verses meant. Instead of taking the verses into a context I thought it had meant. It was a wake up call to me. I realized that a lot of what I had learned did not sync up with the bible as a whole. I would encourage others to research this more instead of going by whatever the church says... 
    There is One key thing I learned that really stood out for me. Jesus never controlled us... He always gave us the free will. To choose or not to choose.
    I know if I was made to love him, or made to follow his ways. I would have pulled even further away from him. 
    Please know I am not here to force god upon you but to only give truth. God loves you. It doesn't matter what you have done, or say, or do. He loves you. He wants you to choose the direction of your path. Not for others to choose it for you. He wants your love given freely to him, for a relationship with him that was forced would only prove to be faulty. 
    "God's version of freedom never gives me the right to infringe on your freedoms."
    Please understand that most church's  only control out of fear. I reassure you that I pray for them to replace that fear with faith in Jesus Christ. And I pray for your understanding they know not what they are doing. To god be all the glory and faith be restored to all who fear gay marriage. 
    Thank you for sharing your story. 

     
  • Gods love 4ever posted at 1:40 pm on Wed, Aug 15, 2012.

    Gods love 4ever Posts: 2

      I must say I found your story pretty interesting. I respect that you don't have the desire to change me and my beliefs but want marriage equality for yourself and for others that are in your situation. I do believe that allowing gays to marry will also be financially, beneficial for our economy. I am a strong believer in Jesus and what the bible tells us, I give you and others my apology when I say that there was once a day when I didn't agree with homosexuality. But recently within the past 2 years I read the bible while researching what verses meant. Instead of taking the verses into a context I thought it had meant. It was a wake up call to me. I realized that a lot of what I had learned did not sync up with the bible as a whole. I would encourage others to research this more instead of going by whatever the church says... 
    There is One key thing I learned that really stood out for me. Jesus never controlled us... He always gave us the free will. To choose or not to choose.
    I know if I was made to love him, or made to follow his ways. I would have pulled even further away from him. 
    Please know I am not here to force god upon you but to only give truth. God loves you. It doesn't matter what you have done, or say, or do. He loves you. He wants you to choose the direction of your path. Not for others to choose it for you. He wants your love given freely to him, for a relationship with him that was forced would only prove to be faulty. 
    "God's version of freedom never gives me the right to infringe on your freedoms."
    Please understand that most church's  only control out of fear. I reassure you that I pray for them to replace that fear with faith in Jesus Christ. And I pray for your understanding they know not what they are doing. To god be all the glory and faith be restored to all who fear gay marriage. 
    Thank you for sharing your story. 

     

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